What in the world is a “traditional couple” anyway?
I found myself wondering about this today as I read an article in which John McCain was asked if children should only be adopted by “traditional couples”.
He, of course, answered in the affirmative.
Not surprisingly, he thinks it’s wrong that gay people are allowed to adopt.
That got me thinking…
Perhaps he’d rather see children adopted by this woman?
Judith Leeken fell into the category of “traditional”- at least by McCain’s definition. She was also just sentenced to 11 years in prison after pleading guilty to 11 counts- one count for each child- of adoption fraud in New York.
Seems Ms. Leeken adopted multiple children with various disabilities.
She, however, didn’t adopt these children out of love or compassion… she merely adopted them because they each came with a handsome monthly check from the state.
By the time the law caught up with her she had taken over a million dollars in state funding, though her children saw no benefit from that money. They were forced to sleep on a concrete floor in a room adjacent to the garage. They weren’t allowed to enter her home… and if they did, they suffered horrible consequences.
She’s a monster, and she has ruined the lives of 11 precious children.
In contrast we have David and Ralph– life partners in California.
Obviously they are gay.
David and Ralph chose to adopt three children- Summer, Brittany and Martin, all natural siblings.
The state had been having a tough time placing these beautiful little ones, as it isn’t easy to place three kids within the same home.
While certainly admitting that it would be a challenge, David and Ralph adopted all three… thus creating a wonderful and diverse family unit.
The children enjoy such activities as gymnastics, karate, swimming and soccer.
They have two parents that love them- and each other- unconditionally.
In short, they are thriving.
In this day in age, “traditional” is a word that is definitely up for interpretation, as it no longer exists- at least not in the “Leave it to Beaver” sense from 50-plus years ago.
Divorce rates hover around 60%… single parents are everywhere, as are multi-racial and extended families.
Step-parents are common- as are step-children- and families are now more diverse than they have been in the past.
Children need stability, consistency and love.
Families are more diverse than ever and the “traditional” set-up is becoming less and less the norm.
This is not a bad thing.
I’ll put my money on Ralph and David’s kids and their future success- as a couple and as a family unit- over Ms. Leeken’s abusive world any day.
Are all straight parents evil? Of course not.
I’m one of them, after all.
Gay parents aren’t evil either- at least not by virtue of their sexuality.
Personally speaking, I am a product of our foster system. I was a ward of the state for the first six years of my life and can atest- firsthand, no less- that simply because a family unit falls under the heading of “traditional” does not make them good or nurturing people.
Denying children a loving home- even if that home may be headed by two people of the same sex- is ridiculous.
Love is love, and children are children.
It’s simple, really.
Why not open our minds a little- and maybe take joy in seeing children thriving in loving environments, no matter what their parents’ sexual orientation.
People use the same argument today in denying gay couples the right to adopt as they used 40 years ago in denying children the chance to live in a multi-racial home.
“The children will be teased” is the prevailing thought.
Children are teased no matter what. I was teased because I’m bi-racial. Other classmates were teased for wearing glasses. Or being fat. Or being too thin. Or having freckles. Or wearing braces. The list is endless.
Kids all over the world are in desperate need of love and direction.
Two daddies- or two mommies- can provide for children just as well as a mommy and a daddy, or a mommy and a step-daddy, or a daddy and a step-mommy, or a single mom or a single dad.
At the end of our days, when we’re all waiting in line at the pearly gates… the last thing on God’s mind will be how we managed to acheive an orgasm while on earth.
He doesn’t give a damn whether we got off by ourselves… or whether we got off by being with a man or a woman.
He loves us no matter what.
He made us. He knows us. He understands us.
Anyone who can give unconditional acceptance to any of the millions of children who need it is cool with me.